They worry about everyone around them, they care about the people around them, and they tend to be people pleasers. They also tend to take care of people at the expense of themselves. People with food issues tend to hurt themselves only. not everyone of course, but in extreme cases, yes, addicts can be extremely harmful and abusive to the people around them…there is a narcissistic quality to the personality. In extreme cases, addicts lie, they cheat, they steal, they kill people for drugs or drunk driving, they ruin their families….
One can go their whole lives without drugs or alcohol, but food needs to be eaten every day!Īddicts tend to act in a way that hurts people outside of them. This is why they need to be accountable to sponsors and a program. You may even need to visit a facility like The Ohana to overcome the ED and addiction to counting calories that have been created.Īlcoholics and drug addicts behave in a way that is so much different than people who have eating disorders. In my opinion, joining one of these groups will leave you needing more therapy than ever before. It reflects their inner voice so closely that it feels familiar and safe. They have an eating disorder OUTSIDE of them to yell at them and shame them. This is why the program is so seductive to so many people. The ED voice tells you that you are bad when you eat certain foods and virtuous when you eat “good” foods. If you stick to the food plan, you are good. It tells you that you are bad unless you are able to stick to their rigid food plan. The program acts like an eating disorder externalized. I’m not sure why people are excommunicated when they are not able to maintain the program. It tells its members that if they are not on the program that they are addicts. Women lose their periods, lose hair all the time on this. This diet, again was not created by a dietician or a doctor, it was created by a housewife in 1960 and has been used as a bible for the past 60 years. This created the premise that you are addicted to food and you need to stick to this diet in order to be okay. When OA began their “dignity of choice” (no food plan) – FA was created (food addicts anonymous). She created a diet based on the diet trends of the time and used that to create the world of overeaters anonymous. In 1960, a housewife (Roxanne S.) took the big book that her husband had been using to recover from alcoholism and adapted it for her own food issues. NO YOU ARE NOT AN ADDICT.ġ2 step programs started as a means to use spirituality to help alcoholics and drug addicts recover.
I want to first direct you to a post I wrote several years ago about 12 step programs for food. That I’m an addict who will never recover and that I have to be in the program otherwise I’ll be lead by my addict. I am not sure that I want to be in the program anymore but I am scared that it’s true. Every time I go back, my sponsor and the program people tell me that I’m an addict and that I can’t trust myself, I can only trust the program and that my addict is an evil, manipulative beast who lives inside of me and lies and cheats and hurts people to get its needs met. I’ve been up 70 pounds and down 70 pounds for years. I lose lots of weight, then I relapse and I gain it all back and then I drop out of program and then I go back again and lose the weight. I’ve been in a 12 step group for food addiction for many years.
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